Recently I’ve been hearing from a number of brides who’ve been umm-ing and ahh-ing over getting a wedding planner. Having a wedding planner is a personal choice and isn’t for everyone, but, when the stress can quickly pile up, there are a number of signs you can look out for to help you decide if a wedding planner is for you. Read on for the top 10 signs you need a wedding planner!
1. You’ve become engaged (woo!), but have now reached the “now what?!” phase.
There seems to be a common misconception that all women have dreamed of their big day since they were little, and the second they get engaged they know exactly what to do, like wedding planning is some kind of innate skill. Well, let’s face it, it doesn’t always work out like that. In fact, for most (especially if you’re the first in your group of friends to get engaged), it ends up with a whole load of Googling – ‘how to plan a wedding’ and the like. Wedding planning is a LOT more a) time consuming and b) complex than we often give it credit for (not just in terms of finding suppliers, but in terms of navigating the political minefields and so on), so being able to offload this responsibility to an expert who has seen and done it all before can save a whole load of faff if you’re not sure where to even begin. Aside from not having to worry about it, having a wedding planner also gives you a good sounding board, and is a reliable point of contact for you to go to with questions and to get opinions.
2. You have no time
Life is hard enough as it is, trying to juggle a job, commute and try and maintain some kind of semblance of a social life at the same time, without throwing planning a wedding into the mix. I’ve been there and done that myself, and can tell you – it’s not fun. They say that the average wedding takes 300 hours to plan. If you’re pushed for time already, don’t overload yourself with time you don’t have, if you can outsource to someone else. Whether that’s getting a hand from friends or family, or seeking the services of a wedding planner, it’s important to ask for help. Otherwise, quickly, you can end up resenting what should be such an enjoyable and happy time.
3. You live abroad
Planning a wedding from overseas is bloody tricky, which is why it’s not surprising that a large number of the couples I work with live abroad. Wedding planning for ex-pats involves a lot of regular Skype calls (it’s far easier for couples to set up calls with one central ‘middle (wo)man’ than having to arrange lots of separate calls with separate suppliers), and being your eyes and ears on the ground. If you are planning a wedding from overseas, make sure you have a reliable source on the ground who you trust to be able to represent you when you can’t be there.
4. Your wedding is logistically challenging
If your wedding is particularly logistically challenging, then you may want to think about enlisting the skills of a wedding planner to manage the intricacies. Whether you’re getting married in your parents’ garden or a field, or are planning a marquee, barn or warehouse wedding, things can get rather more complicated when you have a completely dry-hire venue that needs water, electricity, toilets and staff, in order to transform a blank canvas into your dream wedding venue.
5. You hate spreadsheets
Spreadsheets tend to be a Marmite kinda thing – you either love them or you hate them. And if you’re planning a wedding, you’re going to need to love them, as it’s guaranteed you’ll be spending a lot of time using them! If spreadsheets and detail aren’t your thing and you prefer the creative side and to look at the bigger picture, get yourself a planner who can take care of the admin and details. As a self-confessed spreadsheet geek, I have alllll the templates you could ever wish for all set up and ready to go, making the process as quick and easy as possible.
6. You struggle with visualising and styling the day
For others, it’s the creative side that can prove trickier. If your planner also does styling then it can be worthwhile enlisting their help to build a moodboard, bounce ideas around with, and create the overall vision, as well as sourcing everything required to bring that look together. The likes of Pinterest make it look oh-so-easy, but the reality can be rather trickier! Especially when trying to sift through 101 different ideas online…
7. You are planning a destination wedding
Whilst destination weddings are a whole lot of fun, if you’re planning a destination wedding it can be rather more tricky. From sourcing trusty suppliers through to organising the logistics and overcoming any language barriers, not to mention dealing with the legal complexities of getting married abroad, there is a whole minefield of things to be aware of. Whether you enlist the services of a UK-based destination wedding planner, or one nearer to where you’re getting married, it’s important to weigh up the pros and cons to make the decision that’s right for you, and to give you the right level of support.
8. You have family politics to contend with
There’s nothing like a good wedding to throw up some family politics. Whilst your wedding planner shouldn’t be stuck in the middle of family dramas, sometimes having a ‘neutral’ voice of reason can help defuse any situations and ensure you get the wedding you want. Your wedding planner can remain objective and offer a balanced view of things, helping making the many decisions that need to be made much easier.
9. You want to fully relax and enjoy the day
After months of planning and excitement building up to your wedding, it’s so important that you enjoy it. You don’t want to be running round setting things up first thing, nor do you want to be clock-watching all day making sure everyone is in the right place at the right time. Whether you need help with the actual planning or not, getting assistance on the day to event manage your wedding is such an important investment to ensure you enjoy the day as you should (drinking champagne and partying with your friends and family!).
10. You have a tight timescale to work towards
If you’re looking to plan a wedding in a short timeframe, it’s worth thinking about whether you might need some extra assistance. Condensing 300+ hours of planning into an even shorter timeframe than usual can really up the pressure, and stop wedding planning from being the enjoyable process it should be. When planning a wedding at shorter notice, you have to contend with the fact that more suppliers will likely be booked already, and have to do more research than normal to find ones who are available but still meet your style. For tips, read our blog here on how to plan a wedding in six months!
If you’re still wondering whether hiring a wedding planner is right for you, why not get in touch and schedule a complimentary discovery call? These no-obligation calls are an easy way find out more about the process and ask any burning questions!