With social media creating this perfect world where it looks like everyone has their shit together, in reality this couldn’t be further from the truth. However, amidst working long hours, commuting, juggling life admin, and seeing friends and family, many couples are feeling the pressure to do it all – and squeeze planning a wedding into an already hectic mix. But, with the pressures society places on people can come a reluctance to hand over the reins (I for one am so guilty of this!). So, here I wanted to share why hiring a wedding planner doesn’t mean relinquishing control or admitting defeat.
Does hiring a wedding planning mean losing control?
Let’s be clear. Hiring a wedding planner does not mean relinquishing control. Whether you have a wedding planner or not, planning a wedding is a team effort – and a good wedding planner will allow you as much or as little involvement as you wish.
Some couples want lots of involvement, others want very little – either way is fine, so long as you are clear from the outset. As a wedding planner, I tailor my working processes to each and every couple, allowing them as much or as little involvement as they desire. Personally, I tend to find a happy medium tends to work best. Some degree of involvement is important to ensure the wedding is personalised to you. Yet, you also shouldn’t need to be spending every hour of every day on it (that’s what you’re hiring the expertise of a wedding planner for!).
Once a couple has booked, I set them up with their own personalised online platform, where all of the details of their wedding will be housed. This is updated on an ongoing basis, from Day One right through to their wedding day – and is available for them to log in and check whenever they want, day or night. By housing all of the information in your own personalised portal, it not only saves your inbox from overflowing, but also means all of the information is at your fingertips, as and when you need it – so you always feel in complete control.
My role as wedding planner is to support and guide, streamline and save you time and energy. But, it is your wedding, and all final decision-making is always free to rest with you. No one wedding is the same!
Does hiring a wedding planner mean I don’t care about my wedding?
No! Hiring a wedding planner doesn’t suggest you are lazy / don’t care / can’t do it, or whatever other insinuation you might be worried about. Whilst wedding planners have been a ‘thing’ in the US for a long time, they have only become more commonplace in the UK in more recent years, but are growing rapidly and becoming far more mainstream.
With couples increasingly struggling for time, and also seeking more complex, personalised weddings (especially destination weddings!) wedding planners are now a default option for many couples, just like photographers, florists, caterers or any other wedding supplier.
The average wedding takes 200-300 hours to plan – and whilst many couples would love to have that much free time to plan their wedding, for most, it’s just not realistic when juggling against other jobs and other commitments.
As with florists or photographers or cake makers, when it comes to wedding planning, you can of course do it yourself. But, as with any of your other wedding suppliers, investing in expertise allows you to save not only time but also your sanity!
Will my wedding still look or feel ‘mine’ at the end?
Absolutely! A good wedding planner will be able to look and feel just as ‘you’ as if you were doing it yourself (if not more so!).
To do this though, it’s important you find the best wedding planner for you. Someone you get on with, someone you can relate to, and someone you can trust. [This is SO important, as you will be working together for months or even years!] So, do your research, and go with your gut. As with all suppliers, investing in someone who gets ‘you’ is worth every penny and will save a lot of time and stress further down the line.
Once you’ve found a wedding planner who really resonates with you and your style/personality, everything will become so much easier. A good wedding planner will be able to tease out your styles and preferences and find a team of suppliers who also reflect this perfectly and can deliver what you’re looking for. When hiring the right wedding planner, a lot of couples feed back that the planner has helped them make it more ‘them’ than they could have done themselves – the best kind of feedback!
How Do I The Best Wedding Planner For Me?
Whether you’re getting married in the UK or planning a destination wedding, it’s important you find the best wedding planner for you. Take the time to research and take a look at the different styles out there.
Trust is the most integral part of the relationship – and whilst you of course want an experienced wedding planner, it’s also important you get on (to make the wedding planning process not only much smoother but also much more fun!). This is why I always try to meet all of my couples face to face so we can properly get to know each other – or, if based further afield, it’s important to get a video call in. The main thing is to find someone who gets ‘you’ – when you know you know! Even if you’re a stickler for detail, you can rest assured that all of the little things are covered.
If you have any questions about hiring a wedding planner, or want to pop some time in for a chat, just pop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’d be more than happy to chat!